Thursday, January 17, 2013

A Chronicle of a Train Journey: Just Like That


After a train journey I was just remembering the train journeys and was meditating on the Indian Railways( You can imagine how jobless I am). What has the Indian Railway done to us? How much has it changed? The most visible change I see since the time I have been travelling is, from sometime on Railways discarded the invention of Edison, the bulb in favour of the tube lights( tube light also happens to be a name my friends thought went well with my temperament. I am that rare breed that laughs after a week a joke is cracked. Well I am not the subject here). The next change came in the exteriors. With the sad brown colour that epitomized the trains gave way to the blue n white shades. Well rest all is timeless. There are some rituals that still hold relevant. I remember my dad inserting his pocket comb inside the frame of the fan to give a push to the blades of the fan and magic, the fan is on. I continue the great tradition that my father handed over to me. I remember that in my standard 8, we had a lesson in Hindi eulogizing the great merits of Indian Railways. One stupendous point it had was “Train is one of the biggest factors of national integration where people of different language, caste, religion, class n what not travel together.” Whenever I travel I feel so noble n pompous when I realize I am part of national integration. Wow. Well my mother checks the toilet and if it is supposedly neat (which is also matter of perspective) she concludes that the train is good. With that I feel, if not national integration, railways have taught us or atleast taught me toleration. Tolerate any mediocrity , to accept things the way they are, and help us delude that things are getting better. Railways prepare us for life in general. Wow. Toilets are clean, life is good, like the trains we move on.

There are some train journeys that stay forever even though it is mundane. In the year 2001 I decided to travel to my native land Kerala like I did every summer. I was travelling with one of our family friends in a train called Poorna which is a very innovative coinage that clubs Pune and Ernakulam, which is the starting and end point of the train. Creative indeed. The plus point of travelling this is to enjoy the benefits of Konkan railway and reach your destination in 24 hours. To my great delight I found out that my rapper friend Sudip Nair is also travelling by the same train. Sudip is the guy who lived and thrived in the world of rap, r n b and hip hop. He mouthed the lyrics with rhythm and style. I have said this before, and I say again it is thanks to him that I started listening to different genres of rap. Tupac became the group icon and Snoop Dog a close second.’ Hit em up’ by Tupac was our group anthem. I actually took out a print out of this song and learnt the lyrics and mouthed it next to perfection. Today all I can remember is “ 5 shots could not kill me, I took it and smiled” and rest all is “na..na..na..na ??”. I was majoring in Psychology doing my B.A. and theoretically was aware of peer pressure and what all it does to one. But thankfully I never integrated my studies into my life or else I would have fallen into depression. Well let’s get back to the train journey where Sudip was travelling with his family in 2nd A/C compartment. That was when I realized that the Indian Railways has such a sophisticated touch to it. But the joy of discovery was short lived. The T.T.E. came and hearing my explanation that I am from the sleeper class, and his reaction made me remember the scene of film ‘Gandhi’ and he being kicked out at Petermatizburg.(too much of dramatics I agree). The bottom line is I could not cross some boundaries. A lesson well learnt thanks to railways. Always educating. So the choice left was for Sudip to come over to my compartment and so we did. We stood next to the door and did what we did best, started to talk about rap and its history. He explained me the dynamics of West Coast and East Coast and the terrible rivalry between the two. He narrated the eventual murder of Tupac and I was deeply moved. And then the train at around 7 p.m. reached Udupi station. (Yes there is a place like that I discovered and then connected the dots why some Hotels like Savera that I haunted regularly were called Udupi hotel). We both got down and thought it was cool to have a Pepsi. I tried to search for my wallet hoping that he would find his faster and my hope stood vindicated. We bought a 500 ml pepsi bottle and its cost was Rs 20 then. Sudip gave a Rs 100 note and we were waiting for the change and there you go the train started moving. We ran forsaking the balance of Rs 80. For some strange reason the compartments we tried to get into, the doors were locked. Finally there was an open door and we got on to it. I was satisfied we made it but Sudip was brooding over the lost 80 bucks. He said “ I could have filled two liters of petrol” (remember petrol was that cheap then). Out of exhaustion I started to gulp down the Pepsi and of course we shared it. when the Pepsi got over reality struck. He went back to the comforts of A/C and I went into the toilet and thankfully was not asphyxiated by a very obedient citizen who just smoked before I entered the loo. How kind of him. I think the sign ‘Thank you for not smoking’ should be fixed in the railway toilets. And Sudip and I met finally the next day at the Ernakulam station, I thumped my fist on my chest twice and he did likewise (if u wondering what it is, it is supposedly how rappers greet each other, well).

After a month I travelled back by the same train and same route with the family of my friend whose name is Sherin. Well Sherin was the first one to notice the wannabe attitude of the so called rapper in the making. We preferred to talk about life and detailed discussion about our common friends, their dressing sense and our evaluation about them. We both were travelling in the same sleeper compartment but we preferred to stand at the door and chat endlessly. And then came Udupi sation. I had narrated the story of what happened in the last travel to Sherin. He said “let’s get the money”. I could not stop laughing as it was a month ago this happened and why would the shopkeeper at the Udupi station remember this. But before I could reason out Sherin went and asked the shopkeeper to return the 80 bucks and I looked at the shopkeeper very sheepishly. And to my utter surprise the man took out Rs 80 and handed it over to me. And there again the train started to move. This time we were in no rush. We were rich. We bought a 2 litre bottle of Pepsi and we feasted all at the cost of Sudip’s ‘2 litre petrol’.

Well if you were looking for a moral of the story I am very sorry to disappoint you. There is none per se. Just a mundane journey that had a very interesting twist thanks to the return journey. I narrated the story to Sudip when I got back and I guess he knew me very well. Thankfully he never asked me the money back. Every train journey when I get down at a station to buy something this story keeps coming back to me with a smile. This time at Salem Railway station I bought two coffees and handed over Rs 20 waiting for my Rs 8 change. But the train started to move. This story gives me hope to get back to Salem Station one day to reclaim my 8 bucks. ‘There is always hope’ could be the moral of the story if you like it. Just like that.

My struggle as a Priest to Respond to The Crisis of Culture of Rape


Last few days saw the nation disturbed over the rape and eventual death of the 23 year old woman. I do not want to call her any name as names like Nirbhaya and Damini are result of a projection of a society who is guilty. I find the practice very patronizing and will dare to draw a parallel of Gandhiji’s attempt to call Dalits as Harijans. Well that is not my point. There have been response from various sections of the society and this collective contemplation has been useful.  But what bothers me is the response of the so called religious fraternity which has been appalling to say the least.

Everyone knows where the problem lies. It is not rocket science to detect the problem. But the trouble is at the stage of suggesting a solution. One may disagree with me and I will respect that, but religion (in particular the one that I represent) with its deeply patriarchal moorings is struggling to overcome its inherent constructed notions of woman. The notion of purity, chastity, virginity has made its response to crimes related to women outdated and bizarre. This inherent tension I encounter everyday as a priest. So I would think that it is a starting point for religion and particularly the church is to get in dialogue about rape and other abuses. There is no point hushing about it. Solution to this problem is not telling woman how to dress or what time to move out of the house. These are reactions and the prevalent attitude to domesticate women. It is as bizarre as advising the drivers not to drive on highways to avoid accidents. (I know it is a bad analogy but nothing can beat the advices that are floating in the air for free.) For beginners I do not know what the solution is. So maybe that is the starting point where we are struggling together to find a solution where as a church we can counter the inherent contradictions that assumes the inferiority of women and externally the need to counter the trends of commodification of women in media and popular culture.

Right from the time I was a child I never asked a question that why women do not enter the Altar. Why women are not priests? It was assumed that they are not fit for it. Where did I get thismessage from? It was formed in my regular attendance of the Holy Communion that I observed and participated. I owe it to my friend Anil Varghese who made me realize this inherent contradiction. I was fortunate to have studied in seminary when Rev Dr Abraham Kuruvilla was the Principal. He is a role model who affirms the liturgy and at the same time has fought in many forums for the rights of women. I have studied from the seminary that theologically we have no problem for women to enter the Altar. But I have heard people say we are culturally not ready. This is escapism. My main concern is that keeping the women away from the main place of the community life is a strong message. We are also party to propound the theory of inferiority of women. Why I insist this so much is because of the centrality of worship in community and its symbolic significance. But I feel I lack the courage to do anything in this regard which makes my writing very hypocritical. But I have to accept this weakness of mine to grow from here.

Somewhere when I was a teen I heard many sermons that just disengaged with popular media and movies. It was something bad and not to be engaged with. But like any other teen I watched movies and ads and absorbed all the stereotypes and prejudices propounded by it. So when I went to college or interacted with my fellow friends all they seemed to know is that women can be easily convinced, her no is a yes, one needs to keep persisting. There was no tool for me to counter this. Luckily we are coming out of the disengagement position with media and culture. But there is also a trend to which I belong to, that professes of seeing just choice movies of intellectual genre. Ashis Nandy, a social psychologist helped me overcome this. In his writings he uses cricket and Bollywood movies to propound his theories. There are many who critique him for that. His explanation is very simple. If one just sees idealistic movies made by Satyajit Ray or Akira Kurusowa or Majid Majidi, one is in a zone devoid of popular stereotypes and labels found in popular cinema and soaps. The idea of masculinity ,virility, commodification of women and sexuality are in movies made for the masses. If you do not engage with such movies, you are not engaging with the popular cultural stereotypes. These stereotypes are easily consumed by all of us. Rev Sunil George Mathew is one among the clergy who urges us to engage with Social and Popular media. Taking a cue from him in a camp in Delhi we conducted a Gender sensitivity workshop where 4 popular ads of famous brand were shown. All these ads showed in a subtle way that women can be easily be convinced, her no is a yes, women and desire are closely connected, girl friends are demanding and behind money and so on. Helping the youths and children to overcome set stereotypes of gender roles by equipping them to identify it and critique it is a huge role of the religious institutions and for this one needs engagement and dialogue with the younger generation. One needs to take them very seriously. We are to engage in the process from being passive consumers to producers of meanings.  Moreover there are many things you learn from them that compels you to change your attitude.

All the above musings were naïve and may be uninformed. But my teachers made me believe that my opinion, no matter how foolish, matters. I have written this out of deep conviction of being a Disciple of Jesus who had highest regard for the dignity of women and who easily transcended the cultural moorings about women of his times. He engaged with everyone and through engagement and relationship he transformed people. This writing is my form of engagement where one can agree with me, disagree with me and also transform me. Moreover this writing was also a note to me, a dialogue with myself that exposes my contradictions.
Let me quote Philip Yancey as a disclaimer
"As one who writes and speaks publicly about my faith, I have learned to accept that I am a 'clay vessel' whom God may use when i feel unworthy or hypocritical. I can give a speech or preach a sermon that was authentic and alive when i composed it, even though as I deliver it, my mind is replaying an argument I just had or nursing an injury I received from a friend. I can write what I believe to be true even while painfully aware of my own inability to attain what I urge others toward."

Rev Merin Mathew
Mar Thoma Syrian Church
Guwahati